Dating After 50: Tips for Single Seniors
Dating is a dread unless you’re a committed bachelor/ette. Dating as a senior comes with its own unique highs and lows, for a number of reasons. Unfortunately, being single as a senior is usually the result of death or divorce so hesitation is understandable. If you’re new to modern dating, the endless options online can be overwhelming. Whether you prefer the traditional method or open to online dating, we’re here to help make it as smooth as possible.
Online Dating for Seniors
Between dating sites and matchmaking services, the online options for dating are literally endless. With so many choices, it can be very difficult to choose what works for you. Here are a number of websites that tailor their dating services to meet the need of seniors.
- SeniorMatch.com offers a free membership regardless of age. Members can receive messages, send likes, and view profiles for millions of singles. Those that choose the Gold Membership gain access to more search options, dating tips, and prioritized profiles. Gold memberships cost $30/month, $59.95/3 months, or $95.95/6 months.
- eHarmony is one of the most popular dating sites out there. Using their Single Seniors section, members can connect with over 15.5 million singles or explore their library of senior dating articles. eHarmony uses in-depth personality tests and constantly updated questions to ensure compatible matches consistently. Standard members can take advantage of unlimited messaging and views for matches for $15.95-42.95 /month. Premium accounts offer advanced searches and advertise profiles as a “featured match once a month”.
- DatingforSeniors.com is a popular dating site for seniors with no age restrictions. Users create profiles based on lifestyle preferences and dating goals. They provide numerous methods of communication, including matches based on liking or passing on profile pictures (similar to Tinder). Members using a free account can browse profiles and send private messages. Premium accounts allow access to forums, unlimited messaging, chat features, and an invisible mode for $24.99/monthly or $14.99/month with a 3-month commitment.
- Elite Singles is a senior dating site that uses a matchmaking approach and easy-to-use design. Based on in-depth personality tests, Elite Singles selects matches for you based on information in your profile. Members that use the free membership are given 3-7 matches/day; however, premium members receive unlimited communication and profile views for $9.95/month for one year.
Other Helpful Websites
- AARP Dating Although AARP does not provide a dating service, the site is an excellent resource for dating. This section of the AARP site offers articles and information, including no-nonsense dating advice, tips on meeting places, personal stories, and much more.
- MeetUp is a social site designed to connect likeminded people, regardless of age. Users can create and join groups to ‘meetup’ with people based on mutual interests. Create a group based on any interest or explore the hundreds of ‘meetups’ in your local area. This site is ideal for seniors looking to meet people without having to go on a date. Retirement is an opportunity to enjoy yourself, Meetup is a great way to meet others while having a good time.
- Dating Senior Men is a funny but sharp senior dating blog that focuses on the advice and personal experiences. Written by Sienna Jai Fein, this blog touches on sex after 60, body image, widowhood, and much more. This blog has been recognized as a reliable comforting resource that provides honest answers and addresses difficult topics.
- Naked at Our Age is blog dedicated to providing a voice to senior sexuality. Focusing on the sex positive perspective, this senior dating blog focuses primarily on the sexual dynamics of dating. Explore their extensive library of articles and reviews involving anything from dating tips to pornography suggestions. Hosted by an experienced sex educator, this no-holds-barred blog is an excellent resource, despite being Not Safe for Work (NSFW).
The Old-Fashioned Way
Maybe online dating isn’t your thing. That’s OK. You don’t have to be tech savvy to date as a senior. Instead of sorting through endless online profiles, try getting out and simply meeting people. Try places you frequent regularly, as those people will have the same hobbies and interests as you. Visit the local community or senior center and talk to people. Here are a few examples of places that may attract older single people.
- Book clubs, often in libraries or local bookstores
- Travel or other hobby groups, often found in local community centers
- Community events, usually listed in your monthly city newsletter
- Malls or parks
- Senior Community Centers
- Senior Living Communities
Dating Safety Tips
Just like anything else online, beware of scammers. Seniors are often targeted by scammers because of their overall lack of knowledge about scams. It’s important that you never give away vital information about yourself until you have met them multiple times and feel very comfortable. Financial information should never be discussed with anyone other than trusted family and caregivers. Meet in public places, including staying inside and waiting for them to arrive, as opposed to waiting for them in the parking lot. Some sites take monthly payments so make sure it is something you really want to try and pay attention to bank statements.
Take it slow and enjoy yourself. It takes time to build a relationship, so be careful when discussing history and personal information. It’s ok to be nervous. There is no pressure so take your time and make sure you feel comfortable though the entire process. Writing your online profile or planning your first date may be overwhelming, so ask a friend or family member for help. Take risks only when they are well-planned and safe. You might find the right person on your first date. Who knows? You’ll never know until you try!
About the Author: Victoria K. Stickley is a copywriter, editor, and senior content manager based in the Dallas area. Her graduate education in counseling and research has helped immensely in her writing as well as the care she provides for her grandparents. She currently provides support and resources to senior care websites as she learns and experiences senior care first-hand.